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Boudoir for Men?

Why don’t men pose for boudoir-style photoshoots more often? There appears to be a stigma against it, although many women would enjoy receiving boudoir photos as well.

Before our wedding, I went to a photographer and shot a boudoir session as a surprise present for my husband. I wanted to do something special that I knew he wasn’t expecting, and I felt I was looking better than ever in anticipation of our big day. Not surprisingly, he loved it. I loved it, too. I had stripped down for the camera before, but only for dirty shots taken by a guy in the course of screwing each other’s brains out.

This was different. The photographer (a male, btw) was very professional and helped me create an environment that was as artistic as it was erotic. Having the pictures taken was probably more sexually exciting for me than receiving the pictures was for my husband, and I know that he really enjoyed the surprise. I even did another boudoir session for him for one of our anniversaries. If I can say so myself, I looked better at 30 than I did at 24.

But that also got me thinking – why don’t more men take boudoir photos? A lot of women would enjoy it, but it really isn’t common at all. Maybe it’s just my impression, but guys don’t even think to do it, plus there’s this perception by both men and women that it would be weird. It also appears that most boudoir photographers I’ve come across don’t even accept male clients.

Anyway. As I wait for the tides to change in favor of boudoir session gender equality, here are some boudoir photos I wouldn’t mind seeing men try to recreate.

By aliciastillsauthor

I am a romance and erotica writer and have been publishing my works since May 2020. I'm married with children and work a full-time job, but fill my free time with writing and exploring fantasies with my husband.

Of particular interest to me are genres involving female empowerment, swinging, wife sharing, hotwife and slutwife relationships, MFM threesomes and other group sex, and polyamory. After growing up in an environment that treated all sex as being taboo and immoral, being able to write about and explore various scenarios where one woman is involved with multiple men at once has helped her continue her own journey of self-discovery.

Most of my stories are purely of my own imagination, although many have some degree of inspiration from my own experiences.

2 replies on “Boudoir for Men?”

I agree with you, and I’ve taken my own boudoir-esque photos of myself, which I’ve shared on my site. My main angle has been one of arousal and mild self-censorship, driven by an exhibitionistic desire to be seen in the nude. I wanted to create something sexual, masculine, but also alluring and aesthetically appealing, I suppose as something of a counter to what I imagine are “typical” depictions of the male form. Plus it’s just plain fun.


Thanks for your comment! This is just based on personal experience – although it would at least explain the prevalence of dick pics – but I think that a lot of men have an exhibitionist side to them, but with fewer socially acceptable outlets than women. E.g., It’s relatively conservative as far as showing skin goes in much of the Midwest, but I can still wear a thong to the beach during the day and show as much cleavage as I can generate when I go out at night, and that’s perfectly fine. I know that people will stare at my skin and no one has any issue. A man can’t usually do that.

But it sounds like you’ve embraced the boudoir mentality. The exhibitionist aspects, mixed with the artistic creativity to express yourself in a sexually desirable way (whatever that means for your or your partners) is what I think makes it fun. I don’t see why more men wouldn’t enjoy it like you have.

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