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Why the Stigma Against MFMs?

Why does a stigma against MFMs and women having multiple partners exist?

Or “sluts” in general? I’ve referenced the stigma against women having multiple partners, threesomes (especially with two guys, specifically), a high number former sexual partners, etc. in multiple of my previous posts, although I haven’t really figured out why the stigma exists in the first place. I think most people would agree that the stigma exists, but it just seems crazy to me that it does.

I mean, guys want to get laid, right? Gay, straight, or bi, guys wanting to get laid is a premise that I think we can all get behind. Straight guys are looking for women, so women that are DTF are just doing something that makes everyone happy. 

But then (primarily straight) guys shame them for being apparently too slutty while some certain women pile on. It makes no sense to me. Now, if it has an effect on women, I think they’re just more likely to not have sex with the next guy that comes along that they want to sleep with. Which, since women like sex, too, means everyone loses. 

It’s just all so silly to me, this culture of shame that exists. It was instilled in me a long time ago and in my husband, even though neither of us agreed with its existence.

I still remember watching a movie a long time ago – at least a decade. I can’t remember what it was. Something mindless to wind down with at the end of the day. But a man and a woman in college were competing over something and they were trying to blackmail the other. The things they were blackmailing each other with were escalating in how bad they were perceived to be. And the trump card that the guy played on the woman was that he would tell people about the time that she made out with two different guys at the same time. Like that was just such a whorish and unforgivable/embarrassing thing that she was supposed to do almost anything to keep it a secret. 

I feel like she should have been proud of that accomplishment. Any guy would be proud if the situation was reversed.

In any case, I’m still not entirely sure why a culture of shame over female sexuality exists and why we celebrate men who sleep with a lot of women but look down on the women. It takes two guys to make an MFM happen, and no one should be judged in the first place, but the woman is looked at worse for some reason. I refuse to believe that the stigma exists because society just feels this impenetrable biological pull that causes men to seek many partners and women to seek one provider. 

And if you want more stories about women working to get rid of this stigma, two guys at a time, please be sure to check out my works:

By aliciastillsauthor

I am a romance and erotica writer and have been publishing my works since May 2020. I'm married with children and work a full-time job, but fill my free time with writing and exploring fantasies with my husband.

Of particular interest to me are genres involving female empowerment, swinging, wife sharing, hotwife and slutwife relationships, MFM threesomes and other group sex, and polyamory. After growing up in an environment that treated all sex as being taboo and immoral, being able to write about and explore various scenarios where one woman is involved with multiple men at once has helped her continue her own journey of self-discovery.

Most of my stories are purely of my own imagination, although many have some degree of inspiration from my own experiences.

4 replies on “Why the Stigma Against MFMs?”

And there is the stigma upon the husbands or boyfriends that have partaken said threesome with their significant other.
I have experienced both fmf & mfm with my wife and it’s not even close, an mfm threesome is light years better.
Making her the center of attention, guys competing to be the best and give her the most pleasure are just a couple of reasons why.
A repeat with a previous male had my wife suggest something interesting; after foreplay she wanted one on one while the male 2 had to watch. Male 1 cums and male 2 takes his place while male 1 now watches.
A later confession by her was wanting a good hard one all night and I think my wife worked out the male competitiveness long before me.
Three times each before she called time citing that she was worn out/tired.
As was I and I’m sure he was too but damned if either of us would have quit which I think means my wife underestimated just how competitive males can really be.


I agree and that’s a good point. There is a big stigma against the men who participate in mfm threesomes as well. FMF is completely normal, but MFM means you’re defective. Unless the threesome is being portrayed as the men just doing it to degrade the woman, which is sometimes how I’ve seen it represented.

Threesomes, regardless of the kind, are mostly about the woman/women involved, I think. The guys generally will try to go every bit as long as the woman wants to go.


[…] I think women are nearly as likely to wonder if there is something wrong with them for wanting to be a hotwife as men are for wanting a hotwife. And there are many reasons for that. Namely, I think most societies have stigmatized women being sexual, making MFMs or women having two or more simultaneous or consecutive partners as being too “whorish” and something to be ashamed of. See some of my thoughts on that here: Stigma of MFMs […]


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