How Do Couples Find a Third Person for a Threesome?

www.quora.com/My-girlfriend-and-I-want-to-start-with-a-threesome-and-eventually-start-swinging-How-do-we-choose-the-other-person/answer/Alicia-Stills

It’s a common question with no right answer and is something that couples have been asking pretty much since humans figured out that sex didn’t need to be limited to only two people.

My biggest takeaway is that whatever is right for you is dependent upon personal preferences. I know that a lot of people prefer to swing only with people that they already know. I think that’s more common for women than men, but honestly, I don’t have data to back that up.

Others prefer to have them happen only organically. I think that’s a tough sell in most cases. I know that organic threesomes happen, but it’s pretty rare. I know many people who have had threesomes, but having them just happen spontaneously is on a pretty short list. You also run the risk of creating an intensely uncomfortable situation due to not going over any kind of rules going into the threesome. The chances of one or both partners walking away angry about something is pretty high.

So that leaves websites, or possibly swingers groups. That would be my preferred method. Not that I wouldn’t be involved in group play with someone I know. The idea can be quite hot. But I really wouldn’t want to risk being rejected and making it awkward or having things feel strained for the three of us later when the clothes were all back on.

Anyway, what are others’ thoughts?

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