I understand most fetishes that are out there. It doesn’t mean that I’m turned on by all of the different fetishes that are out there, but at some level, I at least understand the appeal and why they exist. I get it. At least as much as I can.
But I’ve never been able to wrap my head around foot fetishes. Which is a little surprising since it seems to be one of the more common fetishes out there. I just don’t know what it is about feet that turns some people on. And is it specifically women’s feet or men’s feet or does it matter? What makes one person’s feet sexier than another person’s? And do you need to see the person to be attracted to the feet?
I had a friend that went to grad school in a different part of the country, but she ended up dating a mutual guy friend of ours while there. She let it slip that he had a foot fetish, resulting in almost all bedroom play revolving to some degree around her feet. I asked her to explain what the appeal of it all was, but even she didn’t get it, even after indulging in his fetish for months.
I dunno. Most people seem to have fetishes for somewhat personal, individualized reasons, so I wouldn’t expect there to be a quick and easy answer. I just wish something about it “clicked” for me.
I hope everyone’s quarantine is going swimmingly. With working from home and the kids being home from school, I have had virtually no time to work on writing, but it is what it is at this point.
I did have some Irish whiskey with the hubby last night to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day, though.
In cuckolding situations where a guy is watching his wife or girlfriend with another guy(s) – who do you prefer he submits to? Or do you even prefer that he’s submissive at all?
Not that porn is exactly a perfect model of reality, but porn always seems to portray cuckolding as though the guy is a weak, pathetic excuse of a man that can’t hang with the bulls. Invariably, he submits to the bull, who is portrayed in a position of being the most dominant one involved, even more than the woman. The woman is usually portrayed as being submissive herself, “giving herself” to a “real” man who can use her however he wants. She might join the bull in verbally abusing the cuckold, but the bull usually is the one who leads.
Everyone can swing their own way, but personally, I think the reality of cuckolding and hotwifing is usually much different. The power dynamic is more-often-than-not one where the woman is in control and calling the shots. The bull is there to do what the couple wants him to do and has the least control over the situation.
This is my own personal preference – both for real life MFMs and porn. I like it when the woman is in charge and is calling the shots over both of the guys or over one while the other just sits back and watches before taking his turn. In my experience, even when a guy gets off on being humiliated, they usually want to be humiliated by the woman – not the other guys.
After situations where the woman is the dominant one, I think it’s more common for the “cuck” to actually be in control. The woman is fucking the other guys at his direction and how he wants it. He’s orchestrating his own “humiliation” at her hands, but it’s really more of a slutwife kind of deal. Of course, there are situations where the extra guy is dominant, either over the woman and in conjunction with the significant other or over both of them. Situations where a couple brings in a guy to humiliate the significant other happen, too, but are just less common.
There are all sorts of variations and there’s no wrong answer as far as what’s preferred and there’s no wrong way to do it as long as everyone is on the same page. It just has always seemed to me that – more than with most genres – this is one area where porn has raced out to an extreme that flips the actual dynamics.
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What was the first sexual request that a partner made to you that was surprising (at least at first?). And did you go through with it?
For me, I was definitely surprised when a partner told me that he wanted to watch me have sex with another guy and have a threesome, although I’ve had so many MFMs by now, it almost seems quaint that a request like that would ever be surprising for me. And, now that I know so many other men and women currently have or have enjoyed threesomes in the past, it all seems pretty regular.
Other things we do can still be a little surprising, though. We had a lot of pent-up sexual energy last night – exceptionally long work weeks and being sick all week effectively killed all chances of getting laid, but we finally got busy again last night. I was laying on my side with my husband’s face near my legs, which I had graciously spread apart for him, when I heard the crinkle of a candy bag. We’ve done this a handful of times in the past, so I was expecting it when I felt him putting pieces of candy inside of me. I was surprised the first time he said he wanted to eat things out of my pussy and ass crack, but I’m happy to oblige.
Also, shameless plug for my book, available for pre-order on Amazon here.
I’m very happy to announce that I have finally set a release date for my first book, which is currently set for May 6, 2020! I had always envisioned releasing something that was far more… XXX rated for my release, but I found myself pulled much more towards the development of the characters while writing. See the book on Amazon here.
Don’t get me wrong – there’s plenty of dirty goodness running throughout the entire book! Our main character, Abbie, finds herself examining her own sexual reality almost as soon as the story begins. While she struggles to manage her own insecurities, she receives some unexpected help from four strangers on the beach, causing her to finally take charge of her own desires.
The book description is below:
Trapped in her own head and constantly drowning in insecurity, Abbie has spent nearly her entire adult life too afraid to do anything outside the bounds of what she thinks everyone expects from a “good girl” like her. But after years of following all the rules and demanding perfection from herself in nearly every aspect of her life, Abbie finally decides to misbehave. The simple act of calling in sick to play hooky may be all she needs to break away from her anxiety and take control of her own desires again. Emboldened by a mystery woman on the beach and fueled by the memories of failed relationships, she finds herself embracing the exhibitionist within and giving in to an enticing stranger.
It’s a little nerve-wracking to finally have something out there, but I’m still excited to say that I finally have my author profile up and active on Amazon. My first book has been uploaded and is available by pre-order in the Kindle store, with the physical copies being available at about the same time the digital release is scheduled.
A description of the book will follow in the next few days, as will a preview.
We had a good time. My only complaint is that I left the butt plug in for so long that I’m just a little bit sore today. But my husband made my favorite meal while dressed in his ridiculous nearly-nude butler costume I got as a present for him at my bachelorette party years ago.
Plus, I love sex with a plug in! Anal is good once in a while, but it’s usually more than I want to take. The plug is like the best of both worlds – it doesn’t hurt at all once it’s all the way in and it still makes the dick in my pussy feel bigger, sort of like a double penetration.
Well worth it. I’ve never regretted being a little sore from sex.
Fake holiday or not, I hope everyone gets laid today.
Seriously, I’m really not a fan of Valentine’s Day, which, I’ve been told makes me a little weird for a woman. But I do like the sex that always come with the day and I always focus on my husband with no second guy. I like having that certainty once in a while.
As soon as the kids were at school today, my husband and I decided we could both be a little late for work and took advantage of having the house to ourselves. The bus was barely around the corner by the time my pants and panties were lying in a pile on the floor and my husband had picked me up and set me on the kitchen counter. The morning was just for a quickie, though, and I didn’t let him go down on me for long before we stripped naked and moved to the living room. He took me from behind as I draped myself over the couch, cumming in me shortly after I orgasmed.
We both rushed out to work so quickly that I’ve considered removing my panties. His creampie slowly dripped out of me on my drive to work that I’ve been sitting in the wet spot all morning.
Anyway, more is planned for tonight. The kids are spending the night at the grandparents’ house and I’m planning on surprising him by being home well before him, waiting with a pan of scotcheroos (his favorite) while wearing my favorite lingerie and a new gem butt plug. The lingerie is a dark purple corset that leaves most of my stomach exposed with matching g-string and black garter belt and stockings. Tedious to put on, but well-worth it. Oh, and the butt plug is one he hasn’t seen yet. It has a light pink, heart-shaped gem that stays completely hidden until I bend over.
So it looks like HGTV broke some new ground by featuring a throuple on one of its most recent episodes of House Hunters. If you’re not familiar with the term, it’s a reference to a polyamorous trio. Instead of being two people involved in a committed relationship with one another, it’s three people in a committed relationship.
I think that throuples are not only getting more common, but individuals who are a part of a throuple are becoming more open about their relationship to outsiders. There is still a lot of judgment from much of the public, but there seems to be a greater range of acceptance for this lifestyle as well – I can’t imagine something like this being featured on a show as mainstream as House Hunters even as recently as ten years ago. People are slowly coming around to the idea that not everyone is cut out for or interested in a simple 1-to-1 monogamous relationship.
I say, “Good for them!” Both to HGTV for having the openness to feature this type of relationship and treat them like the normal people that they are, but also good for these three for being willing to have their relationship choices broadcast on national TV. While a lot of people will support them, there will certainly be a large (and sometimes vocal and vicious) group of people passing judgment on all three.
But seeing this also has me wondering if HGTV would have been willing to feature a throuple that involved two men and one woman? Like with threesomes, trios involving two women and one man seem to have gained broader acceptance, whereas there is a much greater stigma for trios composed of two men and one woman. Even as alternative lifestyles are gaining in popularity, something about two men with one woman still seems to be perceived as “more perverted” and less acceptable than two women with one man. There are precious few people who know that I not only can sleep with other men, but that my husband cheers me on when I do. The ones who do know weren’t openly accepting, either, even the ones who previously bragged about their FFM threesomes from their past.
Or maybe this was just the first good episode involving a throuple that came along. Who knows. Either way, I love that this episode happened. For more, check out HGTV for episode details.
Alicia Stills Author: Erotica and Romance 