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Rules of Swinging

What kind of rules should be in place you start to swing?

I see this question a lot when couples are looking at starting to open up their relationship and bring others into the bedroom with them. And boy, wouldn’t it make things simple if there was just an easy, ready-to-go set of rules that applied equally well to every couple?

But the reality is that the set of rules is going to be different for each couple and will depend on what they’re comfortable with or what their particular interests are. It’s a personal question that only those in the couple are going to be able to answer for themselves.

And you absolutely, 100% have to give full effect to what your partner wants. Even if you have prior swinging experience and know what worked for you in an earlier relationship, a different partner means it’s a whole new ball game. Things might have changed for you, too, now that you’re older and are in a different point of your life. What you wanted/did want five years ago may not be the same now.

Ultimately, you both will need to figure out what you want to get out of the experience and what’s off-limits. Will you bring in men/women/couples and will you both play or will one watch/wait at home? Are you looking just for sex with other people, or are you going to start thinking about toeing that line with poly? You also need to agree on where to find a partner, how frequently you would want to swing, safety precautions, and anything else either of you are concerned about.

Basically, the rules can be and should be whatever you both agree to, don’t do anything that isn’t okay with your partner, and make sure you are always clearly communicating with one another. The more you talk about what you want to do/don’t want to do beforehand, the better you’ll understand each other going in. And that conversation should be ongoing. Feelings can change and each you can learn more about what you like or dislike.

For most people, it’s nothing like porn. A husband doesn’t just come home and find his wife having sex with a stranger, shrug his shoulders, and promptly get naked and DP her. And a wife doesn’t listen to her husband perv on the kid’s babysitter and go “Oh, that’s so cute! I’m going to sit on her face while he plows her!”

But anyway.

As always, please check out my hotwifing/cuckolding/multi-partner works.

On His Orders: Faithfully Unfaithful and On His Orders: Entertaining Three and Hooky. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
Hidden Obsession: Watching Her Every Move. A preview and any additional links can be found here: All My Works

And if BDSM/femdom is more your thing, please check out Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom.

Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom. Previews and any additional links can be found here: All My Works
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Who Enjoys Facials?

And not the kind you get at the spa.

Serious question, but do any women really like them? I suppose I mean, do large numbers of women enjoy when a man slathers her face in baby gravy? Obviously, some women will enjoy them – there is a fetish for pretty much anything.

But am I alone in thinking they aren’t all that great? I wrote about my feelings on the act in an earlier post. On my best day, I’m neutral about it. Usually, they feel kind of gross. If my husband were really into them, I would do it, but I prefer not to.

Is the idea only in people’s mind due to porn? As far as porn goes, it makes perfect sense to me that facials are the norm. Porn is obviously a visual medium and facials are the visual embodiment of the climax (or several, if you have a gangbang). The women can fake orgasms for the entire scene, but there’s not really a visual aspect, aside from exaggerated facial expressions until the man blows his load. There are other options, but I don’t think it’s hard to see why facials are just the most popular and common finisher.

But what about in real life? Or with erotica? When I read about the act, I think about how a bukkake would be fun to try, but for the most part, I’m thinking about how my past facials have been sorta gross, messy, and how I was just trying to keep it out of my eyes and hair.

My husband is on the same page as me. He likes them fine, but it doesn’t feel any better for him and since I’m not super into them, he says it makes him prefer to finish some other way.

Anyway, I just wonder if facials would even be a thing people tried if it weren’t for porn.

But if you want a story about a Domme that would never take a facial, be sure to check out Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom.

Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works

Otherwise, my stories about one woman taking more than one man at a time may be more your speed.

On His Orders: Faithfully Unfaithful and On His Orders: Entertaining Three and Hooky. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
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Bridgerton, Masturbation, and the Portrayal of Female Pleasure

I came across this article about the show Bridgerton on Netflix and thought it was an interesting perspective.

The first thing I noticed was actually that the job of “Intimacy Director” is a real thing. I don’t know what you have to do to obtain that job, but I want in. I can absolutely direct more realistic scenarios in the bedroom. First of all, sex doesn’t just end in a loud yell from both people before they immediately roll over, sweaty and out of breath. And guys aren’t erect immediately upon the initiation of sex. Fifteen seconds after the wang makes an appearance and he’s still soft? That doesn’t mean sex is impossible.

But anyway, that was a tangent.

I haven’t seen the show, but I’ll have to check it out. The point of the above article was how the female masturbation scene was done in a realistic way, unlike how tv/movies have historically portrayed it. Namely, the woman wasn’t stripping completely naked and putting on a show for the enjoyment of the male viewers.

Which certainly is something different. Plus, the sex scenes were viewed through the lens of a woman. The scenes weren’t shot with a focus on displaying the female form, but on highlighting the female experience.

I have to admit, the explanation of how the portrayal of sex was unique wasn’t what I was expecting, but I found it informative all the same. I had been expecting an article about the acceptance of portrayals of women enjoying, or at least experimenting with, sex.

And (again, without seeing the show yet) it sounds like that could have been discussed as well. The article references American Pie, and even before I read past the headline, I was already thinking about American Pie and But I’m a Cheerleader. Both films came out in 1999, and while American Pie was far raunchier and had sex scenes and scenes of male masturbation, But I’m a Cheerleader was the one that nearly received an NC-17 rating.

It’s offense? There was a reference to a woman receiving oral sex and there was a scene where a fully-clothed woman masturbates.

Compare that to images of Jason Biggs‘ bare ass as he fucks a pie and get back to me on the rationale on that one.

Anyway, I’ll have to check out Bridgerton. If nothing else, I always enjoy seeing the evolution of the portrayals of sexuality. At least topical, fully-clothed masturbation now passes muster.

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Perhaps Technology Should be Left Out of Some Things

I came across this article and thought it was too good not to share. And by too good, I mean what a nightmare.

https://futurism.com/hacker-internet-chastity-cages/amp

Apparently hackers took control of a cock cage that can be controlled by a partner via the internet and tried to extort money in exchange for penile freedom.

I’m all for sexual exploration and femdom of a willing partner, but this is a good reminder to be careful. I would never trust something like this in the first place, and I certainly won’t now. I can’t imagine having a stranger control a chastity device.

Yeesh. Some things really don’t need to be online.

But if cock cages, submissive men, and dominant women turn you on, please be sure to check out Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom, which is my first BDSM/femdom work.

Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
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How Slippery is the Slope?

My husband and I were talking about the slippery slope that may (or may not) exist in the sex industry. Specifically, how big of a leap is it for a stripper to go from giving lap dances to giving blowjobs for money? 

My husband said that he thinks that – for the stripper – the jump isn’t all that big. Working in a job where you’re naked or nearly naked all the time and rubbing against strange guys for cash desensitizes the dancers so much that the vast majority of them would view giving a blowjob (or more) as being just a baby step beyond giving a lap dance. 

On the one hand, let’s just acknowledge right off the bat that everyone has a price, whether they want to readily admit or not. Most of us don’t know what our price is, exactly, and we’ll never experience having someone offer us an absurd amount of money for some sexual act, but I have no doubt that if a random guy offered my husband five million dollars for a blowjob, my hubby would have the highest paid fifteen minutes of his life. And the same could be said for virtually everyone else in the world, give or take a few million bucks.

But that doesn’t mean I think it’s a small step for a stripper to become a prostitute; I think that blowing the customers is the rare exception, rather than any kind of norm. It definitely happens, but I would guess it’s a very small percentage of the time. I think it’s still a pretty big move to go from giving a lap dance to a fully clothed stranger to demonstrating your deepthroat skills to him. 

Pornstars, on the other hand, are a different story to me. When I think about it, if a woman is already comfortable with having sex with a guy on camera in a room full of people (primarily men), all of whom are in close proximity to her to begin with, I feel that having sex with two men is barely any different. Unless it’s going to include double penetration (and even then, it depends on what she was doing with just the one guy), the things she would do with two guys is really similar to what she was already doing with one and she’s still doing it on camera and in front of the same number of other people. 

But strippers? I think that’s a different story. Maybe it differs between a strip club versus a stripper that would come to a private house/party. Most places (at least in the U.S.) don’t have male strip clubs, but parties where women have hired male strippers have a reputation for getting far, far raunchier than any guys’ night out at a strip club. But male or female, regulations outside of an established business are naturally going to be harder to enforce, so I suppose that a lot of the private party strippers who do want to get paid for… extracurriculars… may gravitate to that more private venue because it’s what they wanted in the first place.

I still think that stripping and engaging in prostitution are very different situations, though. Obviously, there’s some crossover, but just think that a lot of women who are okay with being a prostitute will also strip if they’re attractive enough, both to have a cover for legitimate income and to meet prospective customers. 

Just my two cents. What do others think?

And as always, please be sure to check out my published works.

On His Orders: Faithfully Unfaithful and On His Orders: Entertaining Three and Hooky. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
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No Nut November Still Going Strong

Sing into penis like a microphone

We made it through the weekend and my husband is still going strong. I figure that weekends are going to be the toughest for him since I have a better chance to tease an orgasm out of him. I got him hard on Friday and acted like I was going to give him a blowjob, but really, I just pretended to sing into his dick like it was a microphone, kinda like the cat with the banana above. I got naked and he massaged me, but neither one of us got off. 

Saturday, I starting blowing him randomly in the morning just to get him close. If I’m going to make him lose it in his sleep, I figure I need to edge him a couple times a day on some of these days. He still held out, and I could see his frustration. After a few too many drinks, he went down on me until I came in the evening.  I returned nothing, but he was still hard as a rock the whole time. I still don’t know what makes it harder for him – when I blow him for a little bit after he gets me off, or when I refuse to touch him at all.

Last night involved the most, though. We switched things up a little and he was the dominant one. I found myself face down and blindfolded with my hands and ankles cuffed together, a strap going from each limb down and around the legs of our bed frame. He alternated massages with oral and rimming with spanks, tickling, and whips – we have a whip that provides more bark than bite, but I can attest, it’s fun to make that thing crack. 

He’s still submissive to me, though, which is how we both like it. Even with me blindfolded and strapped to the bed face down, he did a lot more pleasing of me than he did mild torturing. It didn’t take long for him to start eating candy (literal candy – M&Ms) from my ass. He ended up putting a butt plug in me and fucking me while I was still strapped down, taking breaks to give me a few more cracks with the whip and eat me out (even though we both know it was so he could keep from cumming). I queefed on him every time he went down on me. 

He left the butt plug in me and used a vibrator, plus a clit toy to get me off. The orgasm was mediocre, but it was better than holding out for a month. I still don’t think my husband is going to make it. He already said his balls feel backed up, heavy. They’ll be like a hoppity-hop by month’s end.

If all goes well, my husband will resemble Randy Marsh by December 1.

Plus, it was nice to switch things up a bit. Being tied down and having things done to me without my input was a good change. We both still like it better when I’m in charge, though. I can make him hard by flirting with other guys or queefing in his face and I’m pretty sure I could do the same if I farted while he had his face in my ass. Maybe I’ll tie him down before the month is over, sit on his face, and let one fly to see if he’s horny enough for that to get him hard.  

Anyway, I don’t know what the rest of the month has in store, but I know things won’t get easier for him. 

But if you think that dominating your man and making him go through No Nut November sounds like fun, please be sure to check out Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom, which is my first BDSM/femdom work.

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Strictly Business: Tormenting Tom. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works

Or if you prefer stories where the women have more than one man, you might be interested in some of my other works:

On His Orders: Faithfully Unfaithful and On His Orders: Entertaining Three. Previews and additional links can be found here: All My Works
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Sex Toy Review – Satisfyer Pro 2 – Next Generation

I’ll just start out with saying that this toy receives five out of five stars from me.

I’ve wanted to try this bad boy out for a long time, actually, but only purchased one after safer-at-home orders left my husband and I to try to get more creative with our couples/solo play. The reviews I had seen for this toy were almost universally exceptional and I had high hopes, even though I had never used a non-penetrative clit-stimulation toy by itself, though.

I’ll will admit, though, that I was not initially blown away with this one. I don’t know what I was expecting, but it felt a little bit weird when I first started using it and I wasn’t quite hitting the sweet spot. It has multiple speeds, but anything higher than the lowest setting right away doesn’t feel good for me. That was my initial mistake – it was some combination of being unpleasant and overly-intense.

However, once I played around with it, I was able to find a good placement and ramped up the speed. I wouldn’t say that it simulates oral sex like other reviewers have stated, but it did feel very good. I enjoy pairing clit stimulation with penetration, but I find that I don’t miss it all that much with this toy.

I’ve used it by myself, while my husband rimmed me, and while my husband took me from behind, all with great results. The toy itself is a little bulky, which limits the sex positions we can be in while using this toy, but there are still enough to choose from.

I don’t think I’ve used the toy at top speed yet, mainly because it is guaranteed to not only give me an orgasm, but to give me an orgasm quickly. My orgasms tend to be very strong with this toy, although they do also tend to be short-lived.

So overall, a very good toy and a nice change from my other toys. I have little egg-shaped clit vibrators, but this creates a different sensation while also still being non-penetrative.

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Sex Toy Review, Butt Plug Edition

We have a pretty decent collection of toys, so I’ll take a little break from my reviews after this one. But next up is the Crystal Jelly Anal Delight butt plug we purchased!

With quarantine and practicing social distancing, my husband and I haven’t had anyone join us in quite some time, even though we both would enjoy a good threesome right about now. To that end, we purchased a new butt plug, to the dimensions pictured above.

To start, I’ll say that I’m not a big fan of anal. It can be fun if my partner is going slowly, warming me up, and making sure my body has a chance to take it up the ass as long as it’s something that we’re doing only once in a while. It can hurt a little bit and I generally don’t enjoy the feeling of having something in my butt. I’ve been double penetrated more than a small handful of times, though, and it almost always gives me a better orgasm. I’ve never found that being DP’ed is more likely to be slightly painful than regular anal, but it does make sex feel far more intense and magnifies the feeling of the guy in my pussy.

I have three other butt plugs, which are all stainless steel gem plugs of varying size that I got in a three pack years ago. I think they’re fun little additions, but they’re also very short and don’t do much in terms of simulating double penetration.

This, however, is different. With about 5 inches of plug that can be inserted, it fills me pretty deeply. When I wear this while having sex with my husband, it definitely mimics the feeling of being double penetrated much more than the gem plugs we have. I also think the material itself is more comfortable than the steel. This is soft and squishy and much more… forgiving, inside of you. Unlike the steel, there is some “give” when your body pushes against these.

Also, it stays in place really well and doesn’t shift when changing positions or start to slide out during sex. That happens occasionally with the other plugs.

As for the drawbacks, I don’t think this was accurately described. I saw it advertised in multiple places and the manufacturer likes to say that this is great for beginners. Frankly, I beg to differ. This looks relatively intimidating when you take it out of the packaging. At it’s thickest point – the fifth bump, it’s about as thick as a real cock. In my opinion, that makes it not ideal for beginners.

Additionally, in addition to being long, the tapering is minimal between bumps until you get the whole thing inserted. It’s pitched as though you can just use a little bit, depending on personal preference, but I don’t see how that’s realistic. Maybe you could only use four bumps instead of all five, but I think you would need to use at least four. Even once you get the fifth bump inserted, it doesn’t taper all that much. It stays in, for sure, but I like how the gem plugs taper more. For me, anal is only uncomfortable at that point of insertion, so the smaller it tapers down to, the more comfortable it tends to be.

Obviously, cocks don’t taper, but they also don’t usually stay five inches deep into your ass. The end result was that it makes me feel a little bit uncomfortable with how permanently full it leaves me feeling.

Overall, 3 of 5 stars. I like the material and I generally like the length, but I would prefer something shorter and something that tapered a little more. Perhaps anal beads would be more my style.

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Sex Toy Review, Part 3: Restraints

Restrained to the Bed.

Or anywhere else you choose for that matter.

The actual restraints we purchased were from Adam & Eve, but it is now out-of-stock and not showing on their website currently. But it was very similar to this: https://www.amazon.com/Trinity-Vibes-AB691-Bedroom-Restraint/dp/B0073JVY9C (note: I am not an Amazon affiliate and make no money from posting links). We debated for a while about what kind of restraints to go with and were considering something like this and a hogtie option. We went with this one, thinking that it would be more comfortable over longer stretches than a system that keeps one of us hogtied.

I could still go either way, but overall, I like the restraint system. The cuffs can be made to be pretty tight around either the ankles or wrists, but they’re soft enough to not chafe or get uncomfortable. I like that either one of us can be stuck there, but not in a way that hurts.

Some of the reviews said that you needed a headboard and a footboard in order to make these work since you needed something to attach the restraints to. So we were a little bit worried about that when we ordered since we only have a headboard. However, that didn’t apply and we were able to attach these just fine. The restraints were long enough to easily reach the headboard, as well as go all the way under the mattress and box spring to tie to the legs on the bedframe. We’ve used them a few times just to experiment with what we prefer, and they are long enough to remove the slack and pull the arms and legs away from the body so the person getting tied up can’t move and flail much. We can also leave enough space so they can bring the arms/legs closer to the body.

My husband prefers to have me spread more, When he gave me more freedom and tickled me, I was still able to flail around enough to give him some problems.

It’s a little annoying to have to get down and tie these, due in part to having to move two side tables. If you don’t have to worry about kids or others going into your bedroom and seeing the restraints on your bed, I guess it isn’t an issue, but we need to take them down every time we use them. BUT, annoying or not, I don’t really see how it could be changed. If it was just a strap that could have its length altered once connected/tied, I would be concerned that the length wouldn’t vary by as much as we’d like and I’d worry that it would slip. So it’s a minimal issue.

It also worked great when I cuffed my husband to the playset in our backyard, which I described in my last post. The length of the straps let me string him up like a sexy, naked marionette puppet, leaving his arms slightly elevated as the rest of his body hung below until I brought him back to life 20 minutes later with the whip and my mouth.

Overall, I rate this 5 of 5 due to the versatility in placement and ability to lengthen or shorten the straps as desired. The comfort level is also much higher than anything we had used in the past. It also came with a blindfold, which we do not care about it. Which is good because it doesn’t stay on very securely, even when we put it on just because it was in the box.

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Sex Toy Review Part 2: Whip

Chains and Whips Excite Me

Well. Sort of. It was something to try, anyway. We went with the Scarlet Couture Beat Me Please whip, which we got through Adam and Eve.

I hadn’t ever seriously considered purchasing a whip like this, but with my husband and I dabbling a little bit in me dominating him as part of me withholding his orgasm, it seemed like a good purchase. Prior to getting the whip, I had only jokingly spanked him a handful (no pun intended) of times. Using my hand was okay, but I had always preferred to have an item to do the spanking. I’ve used a belt two or three times, but the belts were kind of stiff and didn’t leave for much control. More than anything, the belts felt awkward in my hand and I had a difficult time knowing exactly how hard I was hitting him.

This was much different. It wasn’t the most hardcore whip we could have chosen as others were described as providing a much larger “bite,” but it also wasn’t the weakest. The description was that it provided a good sound and just enough of a smack so your partner would feel it.

We found that was pretty accurate. It feels good in my hand and I think it’s a lot of fun just to crack the whip, both for the feeling and to hear the sound. It’s easy to know how hard I’m whipping my husband, and, I can hit him fairly hard without it providing too much of a sting.

We aren’t big into pain by any means, but delivering a whip with this is a lot of fun for me and makes my husband get a little hard. The last time we used it was when we wrapped up eight days of me withholding his orgasm. I tied him to the playset in our backyard in the nude at nighttime (our yard is private enough to not have to worry about neighbors when it’s dark) and left him there for twenty minutes. When I came back, I whipped him with this toy before getting on my knees and giving him a blowjob while he was still restrained.

Overall, 5 of 5 stars, primarily because it fit what we were looking for pretty perfectly. It’s comfortable, feels good in the hand, makes a great sound, and delivers just a little bit of pain. People who can’t handle any sting wouldn’t like it and people who want something that will leave a solid mark the next day may be looking for something more punishing, but this is right at our level.